Entitled 30-year-old woman demands younger sister babysit her newborn 20+ hours a week for free, after she refuses due to working a full-time job, her whole family turns against her: 'Family doesn’t charge family'

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Emma Saven
Sep 3, 2025 5:00 PM EDT

A sister should be a built-in best friend, not a built-in babysitter! Of course, anyone would love to spend quality time playing princesses or pirates with their nieces or nephews (I'd be Jasmine, obviously…), but after an hour or two, the tiaras come off and you're back to the real world full of adult responsibilities…right! Well, in this case, not exactly… 

This older sister just had a newborn baby, and to put it in simple terms, expects her younger sister to babysit over 20 hours a week, for free!! As much as we'd love to ignore it, some people have full-time jobs, as does this 24-year-old sister. So the answer seems fairly simple, right? Just tell her that if you were a millionaire, maybe you'd consider it, but unfortunately, you need to afford water and electricity, so perhaps she could try to look after her own babies…? But when your whole family starts throwing "selfish' daggers your way, how does one stand up for themselves?

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  • If their parents are so set on ‘family helping family’, then where are they hiding from 2-6 pm on weekways...? Mmmm, that’s what we thought. It’s easy to point fingers and call people selfish, but it seems pretty obvious who the selfish ones are here! So instead of fairy wands, it seems as though the swords are out to play…but who will win this battle of the babysitter?

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    AITA for telling my sister I won’t babysit her newborn?

    So my sister (30F) just had her first baby two months ago. I love my niece, she's adorable, but my sister has started to assume I (24F) will basically become her free childcare.
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    She's going back to work next week and asked me to watch the baby 10+ hours a week while she works. For context: I already have a full-time job (not remote), and the
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    above helping my niece, and she "would've done it for me" (which I highly doubt with her having her own baby). My parents immediately took her side. My
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    mom said, "You're young, you don't have a family to provide for, she does. You should step up." My dad kind of stayed out of it, but implied
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    I should just help out for a few months until things settle. I do want to help. I'll babysit occasionally, weekends, or emergencies. But 20 hours a week
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    mother," and I'm starting to feel guilty... but also kinda resentful that they expect me to sacrifice my own life for this. AITA?
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    TheHatOnTheCat NTA, this is insane. You can't babysit her child during your work hours. That is not a normal request even among family that helps each other out.
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    LowButterfly744 "I'm sorry, that won't work as I will be at work." And keep saying that on repeat. Your mum sounds like she would like to look after her grandchild as she clearly wants your older sister to be supported to go back to work.
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    seecarlytrip So your sister thinks it's wrong for you to choose work, as in earning wages to make a living, over providing childcare to her child so she can work to earn wages to make a living instead of caring for her own child?! Is that right? Yeah NTA
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    Kukka63 NTA What absolute nonsense this is..... 30 year old woman decides to have a child and expects others to accommodate his bad planning. Your mother is free to help out since she feels so strongly about it..... Not to mention the father, where is he in all this? You have your own life and have no obligation to cater your sister's ridiculous entitlement.
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    Organic-Mix-9422 So the sister doesn't have a husband/partner? There's no other family except you?. There's no child care options? Rubbish.
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    Jaded-Pudding7199 Not your baby, not your problem.
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    SnooRadishes5305 At this point, she is charging YOU to watch her kids Why should you pay to work for her? No
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    Zestyclose-Custard-2 If each of your parents think ten hours free childcare per week is reasonable, that's twenty hours free childcare for your sister. That should cover her. Be free. Live your life. NTA
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    Most-Pangolin-9874 NTA and I babysat for both siblings and was paid. So this bulls family doesnt charge is just wrong. If it was for a hour or 2 so she could run errands that's different. But to expect you to take a pay cut while she goes off to work isnt right
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    David_NyMa NTA. But what about she looks after her offspring herself?
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    Potential-Mail4334 NTA family helps family goes even for moms, even more for moms than for sisters. Tell your mom to do it herself and if she have to lose work or relocate, tell her to stop being selfish and to help family!
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    Medusa_7898 Tell her you're not babysitting at all. Hard stop. When her expectations are reset to reality you can reconsider. This is not your child and you should not be expected to sacrifice one thing for it.
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